Almost got into a bad relationship: how do I trust my sense of reality?
This person I met felt like my soulmate, so familiar, so warm and promised me a hell lot of things. but after a few weeks he slowly started to begin to try and distort sequences of events and ghosted me for days before spamming me with calls and affection. I called him out on it a few days ago and he has just dropped me. Completely went missing.
On one hand, I think he was an abusive ticking time bomb waiting to happen. I should be glad my friends pointed out so much wrong with it before i got too involved. They made me come into recognition with all these red flags that I just kind of didnt think were too much of an issue before. On the other hand, having received intense periods of gaslighting for years of my life, I almost believed him and I'm doubting if my memory is as clear as i think it is? How can I be more sure of my memories? How can I detach reality from my instinctive urge to run into someone who exhibits the same sense of warmth and familiarity as my abusers?
Submitted December 06, 2018 at 04:37PM by muguureddit